If you’re reading this, chances are you’re engaged—so let me start by saying, congratulations! Engagement season just came to a close and that means that save the date season is just getting started. So what better time to go over the ins and outs of invitation suites and all the stationery that comes with it, yes? I promise to answer all your burning invitation questions in later posts, but first up, let’s talk about save the dates.

I work with engaged couples all the time and I end up hearing a lot of the same questions over and over again: Are save the dates really necessary? How do I address the envelopes? Can I send them electronically or do I have to have them printed?

Trust me, most newly engaged couples are just as confused as you are. Here are the most frequently asked save the date questions we hear all the time.